Factors That Sponsor Divorce In Marriage And Relationships


Marriage, a supposed unending institution with a believe to live as everlasting undergraduates, is now an institution with so many drop outs, the sad reality is that not all “YESes! & I DOs” end with a “HAPPILY EVER AFTER”.

No matter how two people tend to love each other. It has been estimated that 30 to 50 percent of all first marriages, and 60 percent of second marriages in the WORLD, end in divorce.

This can be hard to grasp for someone who is about to get married or happily married, just say am not in those categories. (smiles)

One may say this is not true in Africa, but the sad truth is that even in the days of our forefathers, our parents never loved each other as they were betrothed to our fathers for either political purposes or for land dispute resolution even for spirituality, deities and Kingdoms, if you were born in the 50s, am sure you can relate.

Many cheated, they did all unethical things in the land, many where sent packing, many others apologized with cowries, Goat, Chicken and even cow

For those whose infidelity were not discovered, consequences was soon wrath, either by death of offspring’s or death of spouse, cleansing was the forceful way to make two resentful folks stay together.

Amidst all this, some also grew in LOVE and stayed it to the end.

In our generation:
So how does this happen? What are the sponsoring factors for divorce? Let’s look at the 10 most common signals for divorce, we hopes you can learn from others mistakes.

Tot 10 factors of Divorce

1. Abuse

Physical or emotional abuse is a sad reality for some couples. It doesn’t always stem from the abuser being a “bad” person; deep emotional issues are usually to blame. Regardless of the reason, no one should tolerate abuse and removing yourself from the relationship safely is important.

No marriage/relationship is easy. Even couples with the best intentions are sometimes unable to overcome their challenges and end up in court rooms. That’s why it’s important to address issues in your relationship early on. Don’t wait until they are beyond fixing. Practice kindness, make intimacy a priority, go on holidays and seek marriage counseling (even when things are fine) to preserve the health and longevity of your relationship. Try your very best before you decide that things are beyond your control and it is time to give up. That way you can have the peace of knowing you tried all of the alternatives before the big step.

(My mom will always say: if you cant force or make your spouse to quit smoking while you were still dating, you may never be able to make him or her quit for life {in other-wards, tackle the issues early enough})


2. Constant arguing

Incessant arguing kills many relationships. Couples who seem to keep having the same argument over again often do so because they feel they’re not being heard or appreciated. Many find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, which leads to a lot of arguing without ever coming to a resolution. (I recommend you present your case as a suggestion to your partner and ask that it be considered, not always ordering)

3. Not being prepared for marriage

A surprising number of couples of all ages have blamed not being prepared for married life for the demise of their relationship. Divorce rates are highest among couples in their 20s. Almost half the divorces occur in the first 10 years of marriage; mostly among the fourth and eighth anniversary couples.

4. Unrealistic expectations

It’s easy to go into a marriage with lofty expectations; expecting your spouse and the marriage to live up to your image of what they should be. These expectations can put a lot of strain on the other person, leaving you feeling let down and setting your spouse up for failure. (Hey! leave it open in love and build what you dream, make your spouse that image of your dream and not what is expected)

5. Money

It is so true. Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point. “Money really touches everything. It impacts people’s lives,” Clearly, money and stress do seem to go hand in hand for many couples. (whatever happened to mutual love and respect?)

6. Lack of equality

When one partner feels that they take on more responsibility in the marriage, it can alter their view of the other person and lead to resentment. Every couple must negotiate through their own and unique set of challenges, and find their own way of living together as two equals who enjoy a respectful, harmonious and joyful relationship.

7. Weight gain

It may seem awfully superficial or unfair, but weight gain is a common sponsor of divorce. In some cases a significant amount of weight causes the other spouse to become less physically attracted while for others, weight gain takes a toll on their self-esteem, which trickles into issues with intimacy.

work out and spice up the relationship with all the elements that got him or her attracted to you in the early days of the relationship

8. Lack of intimacy

Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a stranger or more like roommates than spouses. This can be from a lack of physical or emotional intimacy and isn’t always about sex. If you are constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it can become the grounds for divorce. Making your relationship intimate and special is the responsibility of both partners. Practice little acts of kindness, harmonious gestures like appreciation, touching and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to sweeten your relationship.

9. Lack of communication

Communication is crucial in marriage and not being able to communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for couples, and it impacts all aspects of a marriage. On the other hand, good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage. Yelling at your spouse, not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication that need to be trashed in a relationships. Practicing mindful communication. to change marriage mistakes, can be hard but it’s worth the effort to improve and save your relationship.

10. Infidelity

Extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce. The reasons why people cheat are endless, Anger and resentment are common reasons for cheating, along with differences in sexual appetite and lack of emotional intimacy. Infidelity often begins as a seemingly innocent friendship, “It starts as an emotional affair which later becomes a physical affair.”

Most friends tend to lend an ear to your complaints, they tend to also offer their shoulder when you need one, the body chemistry is enveloped with fluids that calls for more attention, craving the undeniable.

That is when the friend either offers to cook for another or take out to dinner, the magic begins

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